His Life

Posted on November 22, 2009 | 7 Comments

Dan’s life is his life.  Dan — my addict son — was arrested early this morning.  My phone rang just after 2AM.  So back to jail he goes.  Now it’s almost 5AM and I’m still up and he hasn’t yet called from jail.  Perhaps he won’t.  Perhaps he is trying to let me rest.  Somehow, he still cares about me beneath the craziness.  I’m sad, but also numb, and also…hopeful.  Because God is greater than drug addiction.  Nothing else to say right now.

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7 responses to “His Life”

  1. peglud | November 23, 2009 at 5:45 am | Reply

    Kay – thinking of you and feeling your pain. From what I’ve been told, jail can be a blessing in disguise. There’s some perverse relief in knowing where he is, isn’t there? Your son is young – and resilient. Beyond that, his choices become his life. There is still plenty of time and opportunity for him to learn and sdjust his course.

    Please visit my blog at peglud.wordpress.com I, too, need input and support as the mother of a heroin addict.

  2. Mike | December 2, 2009 at 6:53 pm | Reply

    Thanks for the post.
    What Kay said is important I think. “There’s some perverse relief in knowing where he is, isn’t there?” A number of recovering addicts who have long term sobriety had need to go to jail numerous times in order to get that their life was unmanageable.
    I hope you are finding ways to take care of yourself at this time.

  3. recoveryhelpdesk | December 15, 2009 at 3:38 am | Reply

    Hi,

    I enjoyed reading your blog. I’m trying to start a new blog at recoveryhelpdesk@wordpress.com that I think might interest you.

    I’d appreciate it if you would check it out and let me know what you think.

    Tom

  4. Madison | December 19, 2009 at 4:03 pm | Reply

    “Dan’s life is his life.” I’m sure it took a long time getting to that point. But, I love love love your beautiful example of how to detach from addiction.

    • onemomtalking | December 19, 2009 at 6:07 pm | Reply

      Thank you, Madison. I am glad you’re here. I will check out your blog a little later when I’m done with catching up on holiday preparations! 🙂

      Blessings!

  5. Lisa Carp | December 19, 2009 at 4:20 pm | Reply

    I just found you, thanks to a fellow blogger. I, too, am a mother of a heroine-addicted son (currently in an inpatient rehab). I continue to work on my relationship with God so that it is paramount in my life, and not heroine or addiction or theft, or sadness. Thank you for being here. Your posts are inspirational.

    • onemomtalking | December 19, 2009 at 6:06 pm | Reply

      Hi Lisa, I’m so glad you are online! I will check out your blog later today, but I wanted to send a reply to you on this. I’m glad you have a strong faith! It helps so much. My son is about to go into inpatient rehab for the second time. I’m so glad that your son is there. It will help him. He won’t instantly “be well” — but he’ll be on the recovery path.

      It’s good that you are writing about your experience. i think that the more we parents of addicts connect with each other, the better off we will be.

      Wishing you the best, especially at Christmastime. Don’t forget about miracles!

      Blessings to you and your family. I’ll keep you in my prayers.

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